Sometimes, You Have the Answer, but Linda Parelli Still Needs to Prove It to You
By 2-Star Parelli Professional Kat Green
Originally written February 15, 2013 and published to Kat’s personal blog which can be found here.
It’s funny how your dreams come true in interesting ways. You know where it is you want to be, but it is so far away, you wonder how the heck you are going to ever get there. That is the ride we have to take, the horse we have to mount, in order to find out. So, when 4-Star Parelli Professional Kristi Smith asked me about getting a lesson with Linda Parelli I realized that I had been riding that dream ever since I got off the couch (literally) in the spring of 2010 and printed out the application for a Fast Track at the Parelli Campus in the summer of 2011.
I was in an Externship led by Kristi in 2012. We were six weeks in—half way through—and things had been getting steadily worse between Blu and I. I was not really panicking, but I was pulling out all the stops, trying everything, and going to all the resources at my disposal in an attempt to turn things around. Blu was putting less and less effort into everything and all of the help from interns and finally Kristi was not really making the changes that any of them expected would happen.
In 2011, during my first Fast Track, an instructor told me my Left Brain Introvert was actually a Right Brain Introvert. I decided that in order to live with this fact, Blu would have to categorized as an extremely confident, centered RBI because he is definitely a confident little booger. He is sweet and agreeable, too, though, so I did live with it. I called him a cuspy-pony—one on the cusp of being LBI or RBI. In non-Horsenality terms, that means he was a good-natured horse who could lose confidence if pushed too fast but could also be confident and even naughty.
The interns I got help from gave me strategies for improving our results for both Horsenalities. Then Kristi played with him herself and I could tell that she felt “yucky” about the result–something was not adding up. Where there should have been improvement in the way of a spark or a “Yeah!” or some kind of increased effort coming from a deeper place where the horse’s true intention comes from, we were getting a little fizzle.
I cannot say in words that I know how relieved I was when Linda reached her hand forward to offer Blu the horseman’s handshake and, when he bumped her hand with his cute little nose, she said, “Left Brained.” In the first words of our lesson, I learned how important it is to believe in myself and trust myself a little more when it comes to my horses. During my Fast Track, it would have been more valuable for me to not let the use of Horsenalities be used to change the place on the chart that I let my horse fall.
It is okay if your LBI gets unconfident every once in a while. It is also perfectly acceptable if your LBI getting unconfident looks like an RBI. It does not even have to mean that he is a cuspy-pony. It just means he got unconfident. It is your responsibility to build his trust back up, slow things down, and FIX IT. Fix it, for your LBI.
That’s all for today, although that was not all for the lesson with Linda–she went on to see what we were missing–but I want to share with you how much simpler things are than they appear. My horse was not some bipolar quadriped. Don’t get me wrong–he can be tricky–but that does not call for changing who he is at his core in my mind.